Took some time to read today (sadly, I don’t read nearly enough- I have lofty goals, but it usually ends up with me reading the 1st chapter of something, getting distracted or falling asleep never to return to the book)....I really wanted to close my eyes for a few minutes while Jordan was napping, but decided to keep reading because I was really enjoying You've Got This Momma!
Lead author, Sabrina Greer, does an outstanding job as do the collection of author’s she’s brought together to provide support and encouragement to other mommas simply by sharing their own stories!
Several of these authors stepped out of comfort zones and their everyday roles as moms and more to co-author this book! Talk about Living their Dimensions!! Co-authoring a book! They certainly did!
3 Ideas/Thoughts That Are Speaking to Me as I Read this Book:
* Building a community filled with human connection when most people these days are so quick to google the answers to their questions or concerns.🤔...how to do it and why “google it” is usually the go to solution...
* What would I have written about had I said, “Yes!” and signed up for this particular project? What would YOU write about? What experiences about motherhood would you share to encourage other mommas and remind them that they DO have a superhero cape that’s been pushed to the back of their closet?
* Thinking back to how I cried the day Brynn and Piper started Kindergarten and I was at home by myself all day. And to think I was looking forward to the time to myself...my sorrow lasted about a week before I adjusted ;-).
GBR (Golden Brick Road) Society is a community for authors and readers alike. February marked the two year anniversary party and author and book awards presentation in Toronto! It was a quick trip, but well worth it!
The event, held on 21 February 2019, brought authors from various book projects together, many for the very first time. Several of the ladies I felt like I've know for many years, when in reality we've only ever met in our social media collaboration groups and have been collaborating since 2016. To my point, I mentioned to Sabrina Greer that she reminded me of someone only to realize moments later that she reminded me of herself!
The book I co-authored with GBR, On Her Plate, launched in the last publishing year and won the GBR Brilliance Award for it's content and how quickly it became known in the literary world relative to other publications. I, along with my fellow co-authors, was awarded the Author Growth Award for the significance of our work and contributions to the project.
Prior to the festivities were the workshops. Several speakers shared their stories and how they 'bossed-up' their lives and businesses.
Here are some takeaways and thought provoking questions I gleaned from each speaker as well as thoughts and questions that struck me. Perhaps you'll find them useful as you navigate your way through your own "boss-hood". (my term - I just made it up!) Use them to get focused so you can Live Your Dimensions!
Sarah Swain: Founder and Visionary, The Great Canadian Woman
* Make a choice about how to respond to the fear I'm feeling - the fear that can hold me back from doing great things.
Cassie Jeans: Author & Soul Whisperer
* What do I desire?
* What do I want my legacy to be?
* Why am I still beating myself up for thinks that happened eons ago? Just release it.
* How often can we step into something new in our lives? ANYTIME we want to!
* Be me and show up as me with my whole heart every day!
* Conversation and small talk starter: "What are you craving today? What do you desire today?"
Sabrina Greer: Author/ East Coast Director for Mommas Charity and YGTM Inc. Community Developer - spoke on Growth.
* Growth our professional lives can involve pain. Like a child who with growing pains - growth can hurt. It is physically uncomfortable.
* What am I doing for my growth mindset?
* What am I afraid of when it comes to growth?
Book by Carol Dweck: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Growth vs Fixed Mindset
Thriving vs. Surviving Mindset
Growth requires work. Excuses people give to avoid work:
1. I can't do that.
2. It's too hard.
3. It's too much work.
Question: What can I do that will make me significant? It all boils down to DOING the work. Am I willing to do the work?
The opposite of FEAR is LOVE
Dierdre Slattery: Health and Fitness Consultant/ Fitness Model/Author
* connect to what others see pouring out of you as your calling and look into that deeper.
* set a goal and ignore any shame that crops up in your mind that might keep you from seeking to attain that goal.
1. My goal for fitness and health
2. What's my timeline (set a hard date)?
3. What is the meaning and purpose of that goal?
4. Share my goal with someone I trust...accountability.
Celebrate myself and my energy!
Become a powerhouse when these three are aligned:
Jennifer Jayde: Spiritual Growth/ Speaker/ Coach/ Founder & CEO of Jennifer Jayde International Inc.
* success and self-worth are wrapped up in each other
* listen to your calling from within and get in alignment with it
* she left her 9 to 5 to follow her passion for photography
* she's a practitioner of how to turn the small voice of intuition up in volume in your life.
* Ask yourself, is this a YES for me? If the response is flat when you listen in the quiet, with no feeling then it's not in alignment with what you should be doing. IF the feeling is flat AND you feel a bit nervous about it, then perhaps it's worth considering.
"The basis of your life is absolute freedom, the goal is joy, and the result of that perfect combination is motion forward, or growth. Your goal is to find objects of attention that let your cork raise."
- Abraham Hicks
What do you think about this statement: A belief is a thought on repeat?
* practice differentiating between a thought and guidance.
Guidance will not make logical sense.
* guidance comes to us everyday 24/7
* find a way to connect with God EVERYDAY!
Here's a bit of the backstory to my trip for some lite reading!
My trip was short and I wish I could have stayed longer, but between the workshops, hanging out with my sister Kirsten, and celebrating at the awards ceremony and after-party, it was just the right amount of time. The only person missing was my mom who had not ONE, but TWO flights out of Washington D.C. canceled due to winter weather. Thanks to technology today, she and my dad were there to support via FaceTime!
I began my trek to Toronto on the 20th of February and was quite surprised that my flight hadn't been canceled considering there were about 8 inches of snow on the ground that hadn't been plowed for quite some time. It made for a slow drive to the airport on the streetlight-less back country roads here in Kansas and winding through Missouri.
The night before my trip was packed with activities and trips to Walmart and the J.C. Penny salon where I took my girls to have their hair done. Two-strand twists while I'm away always means low to no maintenance for dad! Needless to say, since I didn't begin packing earlier, it made for a short night. I got about 35 minutes of sleep and departed for the airport at 3:30 AM only to find the roads looked like they'd hardly been touched with a snow plow. . . at all. My flight was delayed, but not directly due to weather. Apparently, the local crew didn't get the "It's snowing A LOT" memo and didn't to get to the airport on time. Once the crew finally arrived, the de-icing of our neighboring plane took forever. It took a bit to get off the ground, but eventually, I made it to Toronto.
I grabbed a bite to eat and not long after dinner, my sister Kirsten and I met up. She flew in from Nashville. Upon the recommendation of the servers the dinner spot, we went two doors down for $5 CAD martini night. My litchi fruit martini was tasty! So tasty that I decided to have another. The calamari Kirsten ordered was not good. I'm not kidding, the calamari shared a likeness to a very thin rubber band and while I've never eaten a rubber band I'm pretty sure I now know what a dried out disintegrating rubber band tastes like now! Without a doubt, it was the WORST calamari I’ve ever had!
I'm glad that our server had a good sense of humor. She commented how she's actually never tried the calamari because she's vegan. She told us how people order it all the time and really enjoy it. At one point I told her I think it would be ok if she tried some because, "If I'm not mistaken, rubber is a plant." She got a kick out of that. I was laughing so hard I could hardly stand it. Tears rolling down my eyes I was cracking up all over the place! Kirsten tried to stop me from saying anything initially, but she knows me and naturally she began laughing pretty hard too!
It’s funny how others remember things about us that we probably wouldn’t recall on our own. This past week I had the opportunity to visit with a young lady (she’s 2 years younger than me - lol!) I haven’t seen since 2003. My oldest two girls were on Spring Break so we decided to make the 8 hour trek to visit one of my sisters and her family who lives in Tennessee not far from the young lady I went to visit.
Her name is Emily. I had the privilege of serving as Emily's Platoon Leader in Operation Iraqi Freedom I back when we both served in the 101st Airborne Division at Fort Campbell, Kentucky. Emily was a linguist in the platoon. Not only did we get to meet her sweet family this week, but I also got to hear a few of Emily’s recollections of me.
She recalled how the Platoon Sergeant and I marched over to the post hospital to have words with a medical provider who was giving her a difficult time. There were a couple of humorous stories, but the one that touched me the most was when she showed me how she remembered that I am a French speaker and that the French language is my jam! (Emily learned to speak French when she was young.) She walked to her bookshelf and pulled down a copy of Le Petit Nicolas. She then proceeded to tell me that I’d given her that copy years ago. She asked if I wanted it back. I told her no. I hadn't missed it all these years and I'd given it to her. That's her memory to keep.
Had someone asked me who I gave a French language book to all those years ago, I wouldn’t have been able to answer. I would have failed that quiz. To know that On some level I added something (and maybe even several 'somethings') positive to her life holds specially meaning to me. It’s one thing for a former Army peer to share how you impacted their life, but it’s even more significant and perhaps more touching when a former subordinate calls you “friend”.
Thank you for your hospitality and spending a portion of your Wednesday night with us Emily! The girls all had a blast and so did I. Brynn begged to go back the day after and the day after that.
Which brings me to my old stomping grounds The Looking Glass Restaurant in Clarksville, TN. On this same trip, my sister Kirsten, her friend Amy, the girls and I all went to The Looking Glass for lunch. Back in 2001, I lived just around the corner from the whimsical and then eclectic cafe and quickly developed a friendship with the owner, Mrs. Eddington. I think she was the first person I'd ever met who wore an asymetric hair cut. I even planned and hosted a unit hail and farewell at the Looking Glass - it was a luau and it was a hit! I'm not one to toot my own horn, but I'll give myself some props now! Looking back, I feel sorry for the next lieutenant in the Battalion who was assigned to organize and plan the next hail and farewell! Not too sure how he/she could have topped it! Lol!
This week I learned that Mrs. Eddington passed not long ago and that I’d practically just missed her. During our visit to The Looking Glass I had the pleasure of sharing my memories of her with her son Conrad who now tends to The Looking Glass. I always remember her drinking her coffee through a straw. The reason she explained was so as not to stain her teeth! Although I never adopted the practice, it has stuck with me to this day. The recollection brought a smile to her son’s face. He then told me that she was actually laid to rest with her iced coffee complete with straw!!
The impact we have on other’s lives and the impact they have on ours may never be known. They may never even be spoken. But when they are, soak them up and be sure to share them freely!
Sometimes I have to remind myself that it's ok, to indulge. This past week, I started to feel run down. Jordan wasn't feeling the best these past couple of weeks and after the kids would get in bed each night, I'd stay up and binge watch the Amazon Prime Original I'm into these days! Needless to say, I would end up exhausted the next day and started feeling wiped out after keeping these hours for a few days. I immediately started drinking my homemade Nature's Flu Shot. Oh, before you make the assumption that I am anti-vaccinations, just know that the name of the concoction is Nature's Flu Shot ;-) I got chastised by an older gentleman on social media when I shared the Nature's Flu Shot recipe. He told me that I needed to stop with my concoction and go get my flu shot already! LoL!
Typically, when the older two children are at school and the baby is napping, I try to accomplish as much around the house as I can. I mean, who doesn't, right? Dishes, laundry, reading, my small business To Do's, shower, exercise, and I guess the list really can go on. This week, not so much. This week, I took a nap! Actually, I took two and felt soooo much better!
My biggest concern once I decide to lie down is will my alarm clock go off and if it does, will I hear it?? Isn't it awful to wake up in a panic? Especially when oversleeping has caused you to run behind..picking the kids up from school for instance! I mitigate oversleeping a couple of different ways. First, I set at least 2 alarms on my phone that's placed so I have to get up to turn it off. Second, I call or text to ask my mom, my sister, and my husband to call me by a certain time to ensure that I am up and moving. It's usually just one or two of the three, but it's always good to have a backup waker-uper!
How about you, what do you give yourself the freedom to indulge in from time to time? Oh, and can you remember those days when you felt like you didn't need a nap as a child and your parents made you take one anyway? Yeah, that's what Sunday afternoons, after church and lunch looked like for me. I loathed taking naps, but somehow I always felt better afterwards! I don't recall how old I was. Younger than 4th grade and old enough to remember :-) How about you? Did the adults in our life insist on you taking naps after toddler-hood? Check out the article below for other ways we can lighten up and enjoy!
Each Thursday for the past couple of years, I've contributed to an autoimmune support community on Facebook called My Mountain, My Lupus. I was invited to write a Healthy Living Thursday column by the community's founder Bridge Gardiner and happily agreed. Over the weeks, months, and years I've shared whole food as well as plant-based recipes, offered tips on how eating a clean diet helped me overcome my autoimmune struggles (read On Her Plate to learn more), encouraged those suffering far worse than I in their afflictions, and shared a little bit about me and my family from time to time.
Yesterday, was my first full day home since Christmas vacation. I'd been off of social media for the duration of our cruise to Cozumel and Progresso, so there was a bit to catch up on...including the calendar! It took one of my 7 year-olds to remind me that although yesterday was her first day back to school it was not Monday, but THURSDAY! I'd seriously lost track of the days of the week, but not the date of course! It's 2019!!
Realizing it was Healthy Living Thursday, I put my hands on a copy of a recipe for Nature's Flu Shot I've had for several years and shared it with the My Mountain community. Today I share it with you. Hopefully, you'll find it useful in the unfortunate event you come down with, or feel like you're coming down with, some kind of crud. I have no personal testimonies of my own since I've yet to use it. If you use it, will you please let us all know how it worked for you? I'd love to read about your experience.
Nature's Flu Shot Recipe:
the Juice of 6 Fresh Lemons
1 bulb of Garlic
2 tsp Ginger powder
2 tbsp honey
3 cups Pineapple Juice
1/4 tsp Cayenne powder
Blend All Ingredients thoroughly and store in a mason jar. Take 1 cup 4 times a day until your symptoms are resolved.
One more thing I'd like to share is a blog post a college classmate of mine Dr. Erin Stair recently wrote and shared:
Twelve Natural Tips for Fighting the Flu, Respiratory and Sinus Infections
Erin Stair, MD, MPH is the founder of Blooming Wellness, a NYC-based holistic health, wellness & lifestyle site that focuses on promoting positive lifestyle changes and disease prevention, so as to enhance both physical and mental well-being.
In her spare time, "Dr. Eeks" interviews really interesting people on all sorts of health topics and shares them in her blog. She's a prolific writer who keeps it REAL! Her writing is lighthearted, sometimes sarcastic, informative and always research-based! Check her out at Blooming Wellness to learn more about the other cool stuff she does!
Cheers and Happy New Year!!
I just spent the last 45 minutes folding clothes. As I look at the top of my dryer there is more laundry to be done. As I look at the basket of clean and folded laundry, there is still more to be done. As I look at the laundry baskets filled with dirty clothes I sigh and leave the laundry room for fear of becoming a casualty. Being buried beneath an avalanche of a mix of clean and dirty clothes is not beyond the realm of possibilities today.
I can’t imagine I’m the only person who’s ever gotten behind with the never ending task of washing, drying and folding laundry. Have you ever thought about the times when you’re on top of it all and you’re holding it all down and there are no clothes stacked anywhere? What’s going on in your life when you’re managing the laundry (and the rest of the house) like a champ?
I took a few moments to reflect on my answers to these very questions and here’s what I came up with: My husband goes TDY for 2, sometimes 3, weeks every month. When he’s away I’m like an automaton. I’ve got the laundry, dishes, kitchen and meals all planned out and synchronized. Not one moment is wasted. Every minute is accounted for. I’m quickly preparing dinner while one daughter is at play practice, the other is at The Boys and Girls Club and the baby is with me. There’s no time to sit and watch TV while popping bonbons as if I had nothing else to do. To quote Sweet Brown, “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” It’s not a perfect process, but it is a relatively well oiled machine.
When my husband is away I'd like to think I could be nominated for "Best in Laundry". So, what happens when he gets home? I slack off. I relax. I don't get as far as popping bonbons on the couch, but I do get out of my routine. He’s home, so I’ve got back up! I can take a breather, right? And that’s when it happens! That is when the laundry- piles -up yet again. Then it's back to rushing to empty then fill the washing machine when I hear from upstairs, "Mommy, I have no socks!" or "Mommy, do you know where my hoodie is?"
Many of you reading this can relate to this sort of cycle. Some of you are dads and others of you are moms and even grandparents. What this tells me is that it's a relatively universal experience. An experience that we should all give thanks for even if it can be tiresome and a bit maddening at times. If we didn't have any clothes there would be no laundry mayhem, so I think I'll keep the occasional mayhem around a while. What all this says to me is be grateful that there are clothes to clean and be extra grateful when they pile up. The pile itself is a sign that we have more than enough.
What else surrounding laundry can we be thankful for? Leave a comment. I'd love to hear from you!
“If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.” — Rabbi Harold Kushner
Allison Marschean is a wife and mother of 8 year old twins girls and a 2 year old baby girl who is kicking an autoimmune disorder to the curb with food and fitness, all while living her dimensions!